TT #28: support

Thirteen things about support Last Tuesday my course 'Working with your own experience' was about support. An interesting topic, so I'm using it for this week's TT! I'll start with the 9 types of support you can get from another person and add a few remarks. information source (you want answers) - Someone with knowledge who can give you the information (facts) you want - I rarely use people for this. My main sources of information are books and the internet. think along with (you want to check your ideas) - Someone who listens to your ideas, thinks with you and offers suggestions to make things more concrete or find a solution - I like this kind of support, someone who does the brainstorming with me. give orders (you want to be told how and what to do) - Someone that gives orders and instructions to do something; once you've done it once you can talk about it or ask questions - I can't think of a situation where I'd need this. I like to know what I'm going to do (and why) before I do it. sounding board (you just want to tell your story) - Someone that just listens to what you're telling, nothing more nothing less - Don't we all need this from time to time? I know I do, frequently! coach ( you want be encouraged) - Someone who is there for you and backs you up - I can't live without that, it feels safe to know you are not alone. teacher (you want to know how to do it first) - Someone that shares his knowledge, outlook and opinions on things so you can make up your mind how to do it yourself - I am always curious about how others do something, but most of the time I end up doing it completely different. :-) advisor (you want good advice) - Someone (preferably several people) that tells you what he thinks you should do; from the advices you choose what feels best - I don't mind to get advice as long as the advisor doesn't get mad when I don't follow it. consolation (you want to be comforted) - Someone that just puts an arm around you and tells you everything will be all right - Often that's all I want! No advice, no solutions, just comfort! It always makes me feel better. challenger (you want to be challenged) - Someone strict that challenges you by asking concrete questions and demanding answers or action and comes back to you about it - That doesn't work for me at all, only counter-productive. I hate to have-to-do something! Of course a combination of the above types is possible! Supporting someone else works as support for myself too. I don't mind people coming to me for support when I need it myself. Helping someone makes me feel better. It depends (a lot) on the person what type of support they can give me. I have learned to ask for support and even specify what type, but the best support is someone who knows you inside out and senses exactly what you need... Oh my goddess, I'm the featured blog today on Thursday Thirteen. Yay!!! I'm the "oldtimer" (this being my 28th TT-list). The newbie is My Lil' Corner of the World; this is her first TT, visit her too if you can. ~*~*~*~ Links to other Thursday Thirteens! ~*~ beth ~*~ ravaj ~*~ Nathalie ~*~ Gattina ~*~ carmen ~*~ Alasandra ~*~ Darla ~*~ Christine ~*~ Queen of Wands ~*~ Christie ~*~ Janie Hickok Siess, Esq. ~*~ Chickadee ~*~ Leanne ~*~ Heather ~*~ Rashenbo ~*~ Renee ~*~ Anni ~*~ Claire ~*~ Sparky Duck ~*~ Carrie ~*~ Kuanyin ~*~ Mrs Lifecruiser ~*~ Mama Kelly ~*~ Sunflower ~*~ Duchess ~*~ Indigo ~*~ Raggedy ~*~ Judy Callarman ~*~ catherine ~*~ Get the Thursday Thirteen code here! The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things. Trackbacks, pings, comment links accepted! View More Thursday Thirteen Participants